Updated: Mar 1, 2020
Dealing with a divorce or a bad break up is hard. Social media just adds to the drama. Here are five tips to get you back on the right path, Sis!
1. Refrain from posting your innermost thoughts on social media.
It's tempting to use Facebook as your personal therapist and counselor, but avoid it at all costs, sis! You do not want to look at Facebook memories 10 years from now and remember that low point in your life. I groan when I see some of my social media posts where I was at my broken place, and I can't believe I broadcasted my feelings to the world. I don't even recognize the shell of a person that I was during this time.
I wish I would have prayed more and talked less.
Instead of grabbing the nearest laptop or smartphone, grab a journal and write down your thoughts. You have a right to your feelings. But, social media is not a safe place. Use your journal to document your thoughts. Find a safe place to discuss your feelings, such as with a therapist, counselor, trusted friend (singular), or pastor.
2. It goes without saying, don't trash your ex-partner on social media. Even, if he deserves it. Sis, t's not worth it.
I know you want to scream from the rooftops about how your ex-husband did you wrong. You want the world to see that he is leading a double life, and he is not the loving provider he claims to be on social media. Remember, it's not your battle, it's the Lord's. Don't fight them on the Gram! It's not worth it.
3. Perfect your block game!
You will find out quickly that there are three folks in this world during this time: 1) team you, 2) team ex, and 3) team neutral. Very few people will fall into that third category. You will discover folks will take screenshots of your posts and will share them with your ex-partner and his circle. Block them! I'm not advocating blocking every single relative of our ex-partner, but you will find out soon enough that if push came to shove, they'd support their family member and all of his foolishness.
Protect your peace. Pray for discernment and block them.
4. Change your passwords
Log into all of your social media accounts and disconnect all active sessions. You may be logged in from a shared device, and your ex-partner may have access. After you've disconnected all of your accounts, change the password. And, do not change it to anything remotely related to you, such as your child's name, the place you met your spouse, high school, etc. Use a password tool that allows you to set a unique password for each account.
5. Take a deep breath, pics of the new lady loading in 5,4,3,2,1
It will happen. Pictures of your ex with a new love interest. Maybe chilling with her kids. Or a wedding photo. Or, the new love and your kids. Been there, done that. It will hit you like a ton of bricks. It will sting. Expect it. Prepare for it. If your block game is strong, you may delay the inevitable for a while. But, someone will share the photo with you. Smile and keep doing you, Sis. Remember, the old Polish saying "not my circus, not my monkey."
Affirmation: I will talk to God through prayer and not the entire world through social media.
Scripture: And this is my prayer: that your love may abound more and more in knowledge and depth of insight so that you may be able to discern what is best and may be pure and blameless for the day of Christ. (Philippians 1:9-10 NIV)